If you’re reading this and you’re recently engaged-Congrats to you and finding someone to spend the rest of your life with! When you get engaged it is so exciting but can also get overwhelming super quick. Every part of wedding planning involves several small steps leading up to the big day. Whether you decide to elope, have a courthouse wedding, a small gathering or a 3-day long celebration many of the tidbits I’m sharing with you will still be applicable!
1.Make sure you tell all of the appropriate people
Before they have to find out from social media or word of mouth! Even if you choose to share your news on social media, it is important that you contact those family members that would love to hear the news from instead of through the grapevine. We tried to make sure that we informed family and close friends prior to us posting on social media. I’m pretty sure we actually waited until either the next day or two days after to post. If you also want to wait to have the news on social media, make sure that you inform any friends who are really excited for you of your wishes as well.
2.If you are recently engaged, Prepare for All the questions
.5 seconds after you get engaged, people will start asking you when the date is along with if you’re changing your last name and when do you plan on having kids. It is really a rapid fire of questions lol I had heard that people asked these questions but I really didn’t expect them so soon. These questions are kind of like when you’re a senior in college and everyone keeps asking you “What’s next?!” and you don’t have the answer. People are just really excited for you and generally mean well, but it will for sure be repetitive!
3.People are going to want to know your proposal story
I would recommend having your abbreviated and extended versions prepared. In the first couple days you’re still on cloud 9 and are totally willing to go through the whole story, but then sometimes you really don’t have time for that so you can just hit the highlights of the story while keeping the essence.
4.Get ring insurance, ASAP
I’m already generally a pretty prepared person so I’m pretty sure I googled ring insurance options the same day at some point. Ring insurance is not that much in comparison to the investment that was made on your ring, so go ahead and get it! Ring insurance really covers all of those “what ifs” that may happen. Of course, no one anticipates anything bad happening or losing their ring but it is better to be safe than sorry!
Another note on your ring—read all the instructions and care advice provided with your ring. And get her cleaned! Your ring is an investment piece that you’re wearing and you’ll want to make sure that it stays shining like it was on the first day you got it. Most jewelers provide some type of cleaning service with the warranty–So use it!
5. Get help planning if possible, and early!
I already have an entire post here talking about all the reasons you should get a wedding planner, but seriously, it really helps take some of the guesswork out of it. Yes, you can use great sites and apps like The Knot or Zola, but it is nice being able to talk to someone about your vision and figure out how to really execute it with your budget and resources. Pinterest will, of course, be a great virtual planning assistant because that is where you can get so many ideas.
6.Figure out a general budget
FYI You probably should’ve started saving for all the wedding things the first day you met lol but seriously! It is really insane how quickly wedding expenses add up. Like just renting a venue alone is pricey. I have tips for when you decide to look for that linked here. Every little detail has a dollar sign. Before you know it when you’re swimming in price inquiries you will fully understand why people elope. Thankfully, if you have a wedding planner then they can hopefully help you get the most out of your budget. A wedding planner will also help you manage your expectations.
**Spoiler alert a lot of the dream weddings you see on the wedding shows on TLC are crazyyyyy expensive. You can still have a beautiful day but within your budget.
7.Make a preliminary guest list
This isn’t so much as to figure out all of the specific people (because trust me, your list will adjust once the initial hype dies down) but to determine your guest count. Every single vendor that you start to look into wants to know your estimated guest count. Once you have this and you begin getting price quotes back you can see if you need to cut your list down a bit or if you have room in our budget to add in a few extra people.
8.Do you, boo
Make the decisions for how you plan on getting married whether it is by elopement or having a royal wedding be best for you and your partner! You guys are a team and should feel good about the decisions you make together. It will be your big day so make sure it is Your vision that comes to life and doesn’t turn into what everyone else wanted for you.
9.Enjoy the time!
Life will get pretty busy and hopefully filled with good things. Everyone wants to celebrate you with engagement parties, bridal showers, etc. Or even if you plan on doing a bachelorette/bachelor weekend. For however long you have engaged whether it is 6 months or a year and a half, enjoy this unique time you have being a fiancé! Take a step away from planning and answering all the questions when you need to and just enjoy your journey!
What is something you wish you knew when you got engaged? Are there any pieces of advice you would share to a newly engaged couple?